Les Brown was thoughtful enough to know that it was important to remind us of a very significant and valuable warning that applies equally in business and life … “Don’t let someone else’s opinion of you become your reality.”
Many of us might quickly pass these words of wisdom off as being rather obvious, simplistic and nor worthy of a whole lot of serious attention or contemplation. If so … many of us would be very wrong indeed!
You see, from the earliest stages of our growth in our life, we became naturally conditioned to put a LOT of emphasis on what other thought of and believed us to be capable of. From our parents to our teachers in school, “getting by” and “getting through” quite often depended on our ability to learn how to most quickly and effectively detect what our elders wanted from us and what they thought about us.
That’s OK! That’s a normal part of growing up through childhood. But when we become adults, it’s time to leave childish ways behind and learn to stand on our own two feet and decide the path at we are going to take.
Problem is, so many of us still have the emotional and psychological baggage of our childhood tucked securely inside our minds and hearts, and we tend to carry it around with us, wherever we go and whatever we do.
Now THAT’S a problem, a serious problem!
Clearly we still love and respect our parents and we appreciate and value the important life lessons that they are our teachers provided for us as we were growing up, but now it’s time to take the reigns of our own life and make our own decisions and observations about where we currently are on our chosen path and how we are doing thus far at achieving our self determined goals.
The truth of the matter is my friend, we need to ensure that we develop a strong sense of confidence and independence, which allows us to move forward and make progress towards our goals, no mater what harsh, judgmental and cruelly hurtful discouragements are being shouted out at us from the peanut gallery and side lines.
Luckily the most successful people on our planet, from Einstein, Columbus, The Wright Brothers, Thomas Edison, Galileo and Henry Ford to Mother Theresa, Gandhi and even Jesus stayed true to their calling and marched to the beat of their own drum. Are you doing the same?